Life Lesson: It Is What It Is

Hey family

We're at the last post of 2017

Now if you read my penultimate post or follow me on IG, you'd know I just turned 21.

I was going to do a birthday post, I was going to mark my birthday by doing a 21 Life Lessons post with 21 things I've learnt from my birth till my 21st... but you can't force things. I started the post earlier this month and got somewhere near half way, but I'd have had to rush and really rack my brain in order to finish the post in time to upload on my birthday. So, I learnt not to force it. Forcing it would've meant repeating myself or writing about thngs that probably aren't that important to me-point is, it would not have been my been my best work and I probably wouldn't have been happy with it, as with all things that are forced.

As 2018 comes to a close, social media timelines will likely be flooded with people advertising how long "certain people" have left in their lives and yet another animation of one black lady carrying her 2018 load will probably pop up somewhere too. In the midst of all this, what I will say is, for friendships, hobbies and everything far and between .. don't force them. You've got to get your self-respect and self-love up to a point where you know you deserve a level of peace that forcing things just doesn't bring. Don't be that person that just cuts off "everyone who hasn't hollered" this year; at least shoot your last shot and know what it is. While you may want to cling on to some things, there are better things in store for you. I think I mentioned this somewhere in my Things To Do Before The New Year post, but one of the keys in life is the attaining the ability to understand when something or someone is no longer for you. You might be on shift work and you keep calling your manager to see when you can work, you might be working a 9-5 trying to get promoted, you might be in a bad point in a relationship that used to bring you so much joy, it may even be the case that you're constantly trying to find more tasks to add to what you're already juggling. Either way, learn to give yourself peace. Some things which brought you so much joy in February might not be for you at this point. Shoot your best shot, try a few times even- but know when it's time to walk away from the court.

Happy New Year loves. May it be a peace-filled year for us all.

Bolu Noelle x